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John Noyer

I am a licensed professional counselor. I have practiced in Walworth county for over 20 years. I work with individual adults struggling with anxiety or depression and with couples facing relationship challenges. Some of the people I work with are suffering from diagnosable mental illnesses. Most of the individuals I see are not mentally ill they are experiencing stressful, sometimes overwhelming, events in their lives that have temporarily overwhelmed their ability to cope. Some struggle with the lingering effects of childhood abuse or neglect. Others have experienced painful losses, betrayals, crippling failures, disappointments and frustration. Many have tried to self-medicate with alcohol or drugs. The purpose of therapy is not to solve your problems but to help you discover and learn how to use the strengths and abilities you already have. Therapy helps people gain insight into their actions and reactions to the people and events in their lives. It helps people recognize and accept their emotions. Emotions are the essence of being human, they are the language of the soul, they are what gives meaning and purpose to life. They can be joyful or painful, they are wonderful and powerful and can at times be overwhelming. An important part of therapy is learning to manage and regulate emotions.

I have worked extensively with couples struggling in their relationships. Some of the issues frequently addressed are infidelity, physical affairs, emotional/cyber affairs, low sex, no sex relationships, financial distress, coparenting, blended families, step parenting. Couples are often unable to resolve these issues on their own due to the powerful emotions surrounding these issues that are often expressed as anger and defensiveness. Recognizing that anger is usually an expression of deep sadness and loneliness and defensiveness is fear of loss of relationship can empower a couple to effectively address their issues. For the clinically curious reader the style of therapy I use is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This is based on Attachment Theory.I have worked extensively with couples struggling in their relationships. Some of the issues frequently addressed are infidelity, physical affairs, emotional/cyber affairs, low sex, no sex relationships, financial distress, coparenting, blended families, step parenting. Couples are often unable to resolve these issues on their own due to the powerful emotions surrounding these issues that are often expressed as anger and defensiveness. Recognizing that anger is usually an expression of deep sadness and loneliness and defensiveness is fear of loss of relationship can empower a couple to effectively address their issues. For the clinically curious reader the style of therapy I use is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This is based on Attachment Theory.

John and his wife live with two golden retrievers in the Lake Geneva area. They enjoy spending time on the lake with their six children and 14 grandchildren.

John Noyer